Love is blind. Even the most caring people tend to lose their sense of reason when falling in love. Jay Shetty shares some thoughts on how to make good decisions consciously about who and how we love. â??True love is always natural, real and organic. That doesn't mean it has to be fast and immediate, â?he explains.
These are the six ways, according to him, that will help you get the right focus and not fall too fast 'inside'.
1. How do you define love?
Ask yourself what love means to you and how you want it to look?
2. What are the values of your love?
"Just because you use the same words or languages doesn't mean you have the same values," Shetty said. Knowing what you value in a relationship and in love will help you see if someone else's values are in line with yours.
3. What do you aim for in life?
"Is the person helping you get closer to where you want to, or are they pushing you in the opposite direction", you have to ask yourself.
4. What are my top three priorities?
This may help:
a. I would never go out with a person whoâ?¦.?
b. What is steadfast in your priority list?
c. What are the things you will not tolerate, no matter how attractive the person is to you?
5. What are my three preferences when it comes to someone I am in a relationship with?
There are things we are drawn to in a person and that's okay. Having an idea about preferences helps to make important decisions related to choosing the right person.
6. What are the three needed points that the other person needs, and can I reach them?
Be honest about what the other person needs from you. If you cannot fulfill them in the way that they expect them to be fulfilled, they will not feel in love. By doing this you can prevent hurting each other.
